A girlfriend of mine who's in a great relationship with the man of her dreams, came to me crying that their sex life was dead, gone, finished! I asked her what was wrong and she told me that she was embarrassed to have sex as she felt fat! ... Now what's the world coming to when a girl with the curves of J Lo wont have sex with her man because the media has conditioned her that she's fat?

It involves balancing male and female energies to create a unity and eventual harmony the ultimate goal of which is spiritual ecstasy, known as enlightenment.

Tantra encourages you to explore every aspect of your life, and in this exploration the study of sexuality was included, and in fact revered.

When I learned the art of tantric lovemaking and understood that there is an art to this sacred sexuality, it opened a totally different perspective to the way my partner and I approach lovemaking. We began to truly understand each others needs in sex and lovemaking and turned having sex into pure pleasure.

What I found really useful in the home course I've mentioned, was the way you used your pelvic floor muscles to promote, enhance and prolong the pleasure and the energy, also the use of tantric meditation helped greatly in bringing my partner and I closer together.

Should you wish to learn the secrets to tantric lovemaking then I can highly recommend this course. It's made a huge difference in my relationship with my partner and dealt with most of our lovemaking needs. I can even say it showed  us the way to amazing experiences we never knew were possible.

Just to finish off on the art of tantric lovemaking, I can recommend the course. I not only found it highly enjoyable but it helped me better understand the concepts.

When I read Diana's article I found it inspiring how she concentrated on the senses as being a tool to awaken your energy! ...how she connects your sensual experiences as being in the now and for you to see the experience of tantra in the now. It is what the tantric practices bring to your lovemaking that is important ... it is how what can be learned from the Kama Sutra impacts on your daily life with your partner that will make a change to your existence and bring you more spiritually enlightened into the now.

 

Tantra: What is Tantra?

Contributed by: Diana Daffner

Tantra, an ancient Sanskrit word, means to “weave” or “expand.” It is a form of yoga, which means to “join.” To join and expand, to come together, weaving our energies, for the purpose of opening up to the entire universe. Shaped variously by Hindu and Buddhist traditions, sometimes constricted by Confucianism, Tantra in its widest meaning describes an approach to living that links the physical universe to the cosmic whole.

Sexuality, the most physical and intimate of human interactions, is seen a sacred activity, a continual re-enactment of the original creation of the universe. The First One, separating from Itself to know Itself, embracing Itself to experience Itself.

Tantra proposes that each of us undergo within ourselves this total union, this joining of the feminine and masculine. When loving partners dance the path of Tantra together, the relationship is transformed into a sacred journey to Oneness.

(I was fortunate I had an open minded partner who was willing to commit to trying the tantric concepts, when I undertook this journey ... For anyone who believes that a relationship is a constant give and take, then I would suggest that you try tantra. I know it opened a whole new dimension to our partnership ... author's insert)

Tantra describes a movement of energy, a welling up within us, of joyous excitation. Unlike forms of meditation that withdraw us from the world of senses, Tantra encourages us to start with the senses, building on their ability to focus us in the present moment.

Sensual experience is appreciated as a tool for awakening the energy within us. In the moment that we shift from overt physical pleasure to an internal joy, to a focus on the internal movement of energy, the subtle nature of our being is exposed and Tantra takes place.

Tantra occurs only in the present moment. Yesterday’s experience has no relevance.

When I smell a rose, I smell it in this moment, not yesterday or tomorrow, but right now, right here. And if I embrace the moment of smelling the rose as the prelude to a spiritual experience, if I invite the rose-smelling into my total being, aware both of the scent and my total bodily response to the scent, aware of the softness of the petals and the rose energy in my heart, then in that moment I am open to the fullness of Who I Am. This is Tantra.

And if you and I both smell the rose together, and sharing that experience, dissolve our separateness into an infinite Oneness, then together we experience Tantra.
 

Tantra brings poetry to lovemaking. When my beloved caresses my face, and our eyes meet and we breathe together and acknowledge our rising passion, sense our hearts joining and our spirits soaring, the energy rising through the power centers of our bodies, this is Tantra.

Some spiritual paths teach us to deny, to say not this, not that. They teach that who we are is not the body, not the mind, not our actions, not our thoughts. Stripped of what we are not, these paths allow us to see the emergence of who we may be. Tantra teaches us to say YES! to this, YES! to that. I smell the rose and I am that experience, my lover touches me and I am that experience, there is nothing that I am not, I am everything. All experience can be a doorway to who I am, provided I focus on the experience itself, with the intention of energetic awareness.

To learn and benefit deeply from Tantra, we must practice being still, undistracted. When I am smelling the rose, I smell the rose.

To make love in the Tantra way means to be fully present, to allow each moment to be the entire experience. In Tantric lovemaking, there is no goal, no race toward release or orgasm. Instead, there is complete attention to each touch, each breath, each movement of energy.

Generally our minds, our thoughts, are constantly darting here and there. Our lives are structured around busy-ness, not around living in the moment. Sometimes while we are skiing or snorkeling, playing piano or violin, the world does disappear, leaving only the intention of the moment. That is the attraction of these pursuits. They require training and practice, and are designed to take place in a zone outside of daily living.

Tantra provides a way of living daily in that zone, as you enjoy exploring intimacy with your beloved!

Sacred Sexuality is a training, a practice. It can transform your relationship into a love affair!

Diana Daffner and her husband Richard are the creators of a program called Tantra Tai Chi. They lead Intimacy Retreats (vacation/workshops) for couples and also offer an at-home guided audio CD called "Lessons in Intimacy...The Lover's Touch." You may call 1-877-282-4244 for a brochure. Their website is http://www.IntimacyRetreats.com

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